Congrats – you’re engaged! But who do you tell first? What’s the most appropriate way to break the big news?
Let’s consider what the pros over at TheKnot have to say on the subject:
On who should find out first:
“If either of you has children from a previous marriage, they should be the first to know — even before your mom and pop. They’re the ones who are getting a new stepparent (and maybe a stepsibling or two), and they’ll need time to get comfortable with the idea. Give your kids lots of undivided attention: The two of you should have a one-on-one-on-one with each child.”
“Traditionally, your parents are the first to know and, if you want to get technical, the bride’s parents have first dibs on the news.”
On how to do it:
“… organize a fun stepfamily outing (picnic, bike trip, or movie and dinner) — you might find that the old saying “the more, the merrier” is right on target. If not, give it time. Ex-spouses can wait — your kids shouldn’t hear the news from them first.”
“How you tell them [parents] depends on how well your parents know your mate’s parents, how well they know your new fiance, and whether they will be ecstatic or dismayed.”
Check out the full article here and let us know what your thoughts are in the comments! How did you break the happy news?